Are you worried your baby is bored of you?
Whether our babies get bored of us was a topic raised in a recent baby massage online class.
Some mums were worried that during the corona virus lockdown their baby is missing out on contact with other babies, or getting bored of their face.
Do babies get bored of parents?
To put your mind at rest, the research suggests that babies don’t need to be around other babies to grow up happy and secure.
You’re not alone if you’ve wondered about this, but it might be reassuring to know their relationship with you is more important.
You are enough, your baby loves to interact with you.
You are enough for your baby
👉It can feel overwhelming at times to be The Everything for your baby – parent, playmate, chef, nutritionist, advocate, or entertainment. Especially through the last 3 months when we’ve all been at home, more isolated from friends and family.
👉From around 3-4 months babies really enjoy looking at the world, but it can be as simple as taking them out for walks, chatting to them whilst in the sling or pushchair as you see dogs, other children or birds on your walk.
👉Pre Covid often the social activities and classes you might have taken part in were more for you, benefited your own mental health, to get out of the house, to interact with other mums, or to change to mood dynamic.
What helps babies develop in healthy social beings, is to have a strong connection to you, as their main care giver.
Tips for connecting to your baby
You can encourage connection by;
✅ Responding to their cries with cuddles and attempting to solve their problem (nappy change, feed, etc)
✅ Talking to them throughout your day – chat about what you’re doing whilst your putting washing away, cooking a meal etc
✅ Make eye contact and ‘flirt’ with them, smile, sing and laugh
✅ Give them attention – show them interesting things around the house, garden or park
✅ Take care of yourself and your own emotions through talking to people, finding some space for calm, eating well.
Is this something you’ve worried about? Or did you think about this when your babies were younger? We’d love to hear your experiences.